Wednesday, June 19, 2013


A law of the universe is that as time passes people change.  Our interests, our desires, even our needs  change with us. In some cases we  change as a group growing closer and in others we change independently and grow apart.

I am sad to say that this blog has come to an end and so has the trouple that wrote it.  We had been a strong V relationship, that over time grew into a triangle, and then again back into a V.  Then over the last few weeks things have changed between Naivara and I.

I've felt the difference creeping on slowly between us.  Perhaps had I spoken up right away things might have gone differently but I didn't.   I could go in to more details about the events and the decisions that lead up to this but I don't think that the really matter or are anyone's business but our own.  In the end what matters is that we are no longer a trouple.  We are all still friends, just not in a relationship anymore.

  So with that said we are ending this blog.   Thank you to everyone who took the time to read the blog and commented either here, in person, or by messaging us on Fetlife.

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Returning to the Ball

After almost 2 years away our trouple has returned to the Ball.  I know you've now had three posts in a row about the Ball, but it has been a big deal around our household the last couple of weeks.  So that means it is what is on our minds when we sit down to do things like blog.

So in case you don't know what the Ball is here is a quick rundown, if you already know skip this paragraph.   The Ball is Winnipeg's longest running and largest fetish event, I think it might also be the longest continuous one in Canada as well but I'm not sure.  Dress code is fetish wear, no fetish wear pay the gawkers surcharge an extra $40 on top of the ticket price.  I was heading out to keep tamale company while she smoked and I watched four guys at the door debate amongst themselves about paying the fee just to go in.  I'm not sure if they heading in our not in the end, but they were seriously considering it.

So we got there wandered around for a couple of minutes visiting with some friends both new and old.  One of the great things throughout the evening was watching how people who we knew had met at our place interacted and how their friendships had blossomed.    We browsed a few of the merchant tables but nothing was purchased, but it did generate a few fun ideas and hopefully some upcoming DIY projects.

In the dungeon things started off slow as they often do.  One couple went in and used the flogging post it was an old friend from tamile's childhood who had her back flogged into a lovely shade of red.  We waited till the Ball got a little busier and then I took tamile into the dungeon.  She loves a good audience the extra people really help to push her over the edge.  As you already readier birthday is in June and we had plans to celebrate.  I had put out the call to several Dom(me)s I know that it was her birthday and she was going to be available for spanks.

I'm not going to go into too much detail about the birthday spanks. tamile covered it well, what I will add is a short list if those who were able to lend a hand (pardon the pun). As she wrote her post I did ask her if she was able name those who had come out, she was close but missed a few.

  • BabydollBBW 
  • The Oberon
  • Smokin_Stiletto
  • naivara (it was her first time ever spanking someone and she was so cute and tentative at it)

There were a few others who had wanted to take part but as tamile pointed out we timed out.  The dungeon is a shared space and we have monopolized a piece of equipment for a little over an hour.  I’m honestly debating inviting a few people over to the house so we can give her a good working over the night before her birthday.

After we were finished and she was unclipped from the bench.  tamile could barely walk, so we got her into a chair and moved to the side to free up the bench.  A little bit of tlc and attention later and I was able to help guide her from the dungeon area and outside to smoke.  The wonderful thing about the dungeon is the feel that goes along with both the audience and other people using devices.  Directly in front of me was a lovely short woman in a cage being touch and felt by men and women like. I could tell she was having a great time.  I had hoped to get a feel for her myself but she was done by the time was able to get back by the dungeon.  Behind me four of sets of Dom(me) and subs were at work on other devices.  There is just something about knowing you are not alone.

The rest of the night was a mix of dancing, visiting, and hanging out with friends new and old.  tamile was in a wonderful mood and heard from several people how much they enjoyed watching.  naivara was having a bit of a rough time, it was her first real Ball. Thankfully a past playmate of hers and mine was on hand and wasn’t in the best head space either.  The two of them were able to entertain each other and spent the better part of an hour making out.

In the end it was a great night for all of us, and I for one look forward to getting more and more involved in our local community.

Monday, June 3, 2013

My Birthday Ball

Posted by tamile.

So this past weekend we went to the Ball.  It was great amount of fun.  After we arrived at the ball and took some time to say hello to everyone we know both new and from when we were part of the community before hand.  We sat down near the dungeon and watched some people being flogged and spanked etc.  My Love and Master, told me i could go up for a cigarette and then i was going to get my birthday spankings.

So When i got back downstairs the usual bench that we like to use was occupied so we moved to a different one. i was a bit nervous as i knew that this was going to be a special birthday spanking as Master had arranged to have multiple people spank me.  I was a little nervous as normally at the Ball only Master and Master Brian spank me.

Master started the evening and warming me up with his hands and wearing gloves and the paddle, it felt wonderful and soon i was entering sub space and just floating on the feelings. i must admit i am not sure of all who spanked me (Master says he will edit to add who it actually was) but i do know that i was feeling wonderful.  In the end we actually were timed out of the dungeon.  i did not think that we were in there that long but it ends up that we were in there for close to an hour and a half.

Afterwards many people approached both Master and i and said how much they appreciated the show and watching me get my birthday spanks.

For me it was a great ball and i look forward to going back again and again and again.  Now if only it could be my birthday every time.

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Ball Worries

So, we have a local fetish event called The Ball. They happen every couple months at a local nightclub. Basically it's a nightclub with a dance floor, and they section off part of it to turn it into a dungeon. There's a strict fetish wear dress code.There's also a lot of rules in place for safety, it really is a very well run, and long-running, event

I've been to The Ball once. It was shortly after I met Daddy, and we hadn't yet started our DD/bg relationship. It was the Halloween Ball, which meant I was in costume, not fetish wear. The Halloween Ball is a great one to go to for first timers, but the regulars often don't like it because it brings out the "tourists". I spent the night dancing and hanging out with my friends, I didn't go anywhere near the dungeon.

Now, the June Ball is coming up, and the three of us are planning on going. I was really excited about getting my first "real" Ball experience, maybe even getting into the dungeon. Like Daddy said in his post, we've been hosting some events, and going out to others, in order to meet people in the community. This means we know more people who will be there, which should make me more comfortable. But, lately I've been having second thoughts about going to The Ball. Daddy told me the decision on whether or not I was going this time was up to me, but that I would be going to the next Ball, no matter what. I have a lot of body image issues, and when I tried on the outfit I planned on wearing and realized just how little it covered, I freaked out a little. Really, I'm as covered as I am in a bathing suit, but I have been told to be prepared to lose my top over the course of the evening. So that thought makes me a little uncomfortable.  It also happens to be tamile's birthday Ball. Because of this, Daddy will be spending some extra time with her in the dungeon. So, I thought I'd be more in the way than anything, but it turns out she wants me there to help with getting water and such. So, if I don't go, she'd be missing out too. So, I've made the decision that I am going, but I'm still nervous about it. I know I'm safe with Daddy and I trust him with my life, so why am I scared?

Sunday, May 26, 2013

Small fetish events

All of our little trouple are organizers to one extent or another.  We love nothing more than having people over, introducing them to new things and having a good time all around.  Gatherings also make for a great excuse to clean the house, and as an added bonus by hosting parties it means we don't have to go out as often. You see secretly we are all hermits as well as organizers.

About two months ago we returned to Fetlife after a long absence. We saw that small events had started to become more common place in our local community.  I think this is a wonderful thing as they make for great community building events.  They give people the opportunity to meet other kinksters in a smaller more intimate setting, as opposed to some loud dungeon or massive event.  Speaking for myself I know I've met some wonderful people through these little events.

* A quick side note: I wrote the first draft of this in Notepad on my iPhone. As I typed in the word Fetlife my iPhone suggested the spelling if the word for me and even auto populated the word.  This struck me as funny; I think I've taught my iPhone to be kinky.

Since small events were more popular we announced that we would be hosting a Cards Against Humanity night.  If you've never played it Cards Against Humanity is the perfect combination of gaming, laughter, and kink for a BDSM crowd. You can find out more information and even download a PDF version of the game for free here.

Here is a quick rundown of how the game works.  There are black cards one person takes one from the centre pile and reads off.  Then the rest of the players all pass that person a white card from their hand. Picking the card that they think will get the best laugh or the one the best fills in the blank on the black card.  The person who read the original card reads all of the ones handed in out loud to everyone and picks a winner.  The winner gets the black card for scoring.

Black card examples:

  • Why is mommy Crying?
  • Only two things in life are certain Death and *BLANK*
  • What do Old people smell like?
  • In Michael Jackson’s final moments he thought about?

White cards examples:

  • A drive by shooting
  • An upper cut
  • The milk man
  • Tentacle porn
  • Penises kissing
  • Sean Connery
  • Friction
  • Two midgets shitting in a bucket

So, all of this together means that you are playing cards and putting together combinations of cards that might make the average person feel uncomfortable. With our groups instead of feeling uncomfortable we were laughing our asses off.  The cards and the game are just a means to an end.  They help to relax people, to get them on the same page, and to get them talking.  Through the games I’ve gotten to know a lot of new people and they have gotten to know me.

Now when the next major event comes along I’ll have friends who I can be there with.  That connection to others is often what makes any event so much greater.  In the end small events build friendships.  If you have to opportunity get out to the small events in your community.  Be aware of the dress code, and the rules of the group hosting the event.  They might differ from group to group.  Don’t be afraid of things like vetting (We’ll do a post about that at some point in the future) it is for everyone’s safety.

If you are fortunate enough to have the space and the ability to host events then take the plunge.  Maybe print up a copy of Cards Against Humanity and invite a bunch of people over to play.  Make it an Event on Fetlife, just be safe about it, for your sake and the sake of your guests.  If you do have an event be sure to comment and let us know how it went.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Cable TV is Evil

Posted by tamile

So the group of us have just come back from doing two conventions in a two week period.  The were both Sci Fi/ Fantasy Conventions and both were a very good time.  But, that is not what this post is about.

You see for both conventions we were staying in hotels and of course the hotels had TV with cable. With my knee injuries I ended up spending more time in the room than normal (Usually we just fall down and sleep in our room between the fun activities at con)  So I got sucked into the bright shiny box with a vengeance.

We have not had cable in the house for almost three years and normally watch some netflix or download the shows we want to follow.

So normally our attachment to the bright shiny box is very limited and for myself when I am home alone I tend to listen to podcasts or the radio.

I realized that between the two weekends - I miss Cable TV.  Not just to see the shows that I download but also as a background noise generator/channel surfing.

Now I know that all the shows are done for the season but really that is not my point.  It was kinda fun to come into the hotel room and channel surf till I found something that caught my interest.

Now I know that we are not going to get cable (the service provider sucks and it is too damm expensive) and in a couple of weeks time I won't even miss it any more (most likely at least).

So My Love tells me that my next post needs to be about poly or BDSM or something related to that.

So I guess I better start thinking on that.

Wednesday, May 15, 2013


Daddy & I have been working on our list of rules together. Daddy wants me to be involved in setting the rules, not just have rules set by him for no apparent reason. All of the rules we came up with are meant to help me be a better person. Here's what we have so far:

Ask Daddy before eating any sweets
Ask Daddy before masturbating
Make my bed every morning
Brush my teeth before bed every night
Be up & out of bed by 10:30 every morning
Write in my journal every night
Track all my food & exercise in My Fitness Pal (an app on my iPhone used to track food & exercise for weight loss).

That's what we have so far, it's still a work in progress.

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Ending Ender's Game

So I had planned to write something about the cross over between the Fet Community and Fandom (The sci-fi Fantasy community) but I've decided to hold off on that for now. I figure I've got two more convention to go so let’s see if that connection holds true through the rest of them as well.

Instead I'm going to write about something that really had me feeling torn up over.  That is until I did some research.  One of my favorite books of all time is Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card.  So a few years ago I was both excited and terrified to learn that it was being made in to a movie.  Would they get it right? would it be the Ender's Game I've seen in my head all these year? Could I justify spending money to go and see the movie knowing Orson Scott Card Political views on homosexuality and that some of that money I spend to see the movie would end up in his pocket?

Let’s start with some quick things about the movie.  The first trailer is out and it looks great. I'm happy with the adult actors who were picked for the important roles.  I also agree with the decision that was made to age up the characters, sure it does lessen the impact by not having a 6 year old do some of the things Ender does but most of the audience couldn't accept the concept I don't think.  If you haven't seen the trailer yet here is a link to it.

Now for the politics of the whole situation.  Orson Scott Card is at the forefront of the Anti-gay marriage movement.  He is a board member of the National Organization for Marriage (NOM).  He has be quoted as saying;

That if the U.S. government in any way allows states to legalize gay marriage, then the government will become his “mortal enemy,” and he will “act to destroy that government and bring it down.”
He also advocates that sodomy laws remain in place to “to send a clear message that those who flagrantly violate society’s regulation of sexual behavior cannot be permitted to remain as acceptable, equal citizens within that society.”

To be clear about this Ender's Game doesn't touch on any of these issues.  There are no gay characters in the novel and with Orson Scott Card as a producer I think it is safe to say that none have been added. Some people use this fact as an argument that it is ok to be excited by the movie, and that since it doesn't promote his views that they shouldn't matter.  Basically separating the artist from his art.  I think that idea is ok to a point, but I'm not sure how much we can separate one from the other. 

I highly doubt we Will we have some commitment that the money he makes from the movie won't go to promote his personal views.  So giving money to this movie could be like money to an anti-gay marriage movement.  Sure it might be less than a percent of each penny made, but that still my money going into that type of organization and I'm not going to let that happen.

If an artist had a strong feeling towards a given faith or most other strong believes I could handle that.  I wouldn't object to something like that. People can still just say no in most of those situations.  In this case I've decided it just goes too far.  Orson Scott Card actively lobbies and commits both money and time to achieve end that go against things I believe in.  That if he had his way would criminalize any entire way of life. 

I just can't bring myself to support him or this movie.  I hope after reading this that you won't either.

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

My Corner of the verse

Posted by tamile

So, we are all supposed to be making post on this blog.  My post was supposed to be up this past Sunday but I am late. (bad sub).  I have a pretty good excuse, two of them actually.

  1. I have badly screwed up my right knee and have spent a bunch of time in the hospital ER and the sport medicine clinic.
  2. I am trying to finish our costumes for the convention that we are going to this weekend in the states.
Well for number one the Dr's seem to have me on the right meds and i have crutches and a brace so I can move and function better.  I can't wait to see the specialist mid May.

As for number two I just have to finish Randilin's shirt and we will be ready.  (pics to follow after the convention)

So this is just a short post and I hope to get better and more consistent with my posts as we go.

Friday, April 26, 2013

My progression as a babygirl

My progression as a babygirl has been a slow one and is still an ongoing process. I've been with
Daddy for almost 3 years now, but it wasn't until a few months ago that we started our DD/bg relationship. When He first brought up the idea, I have to admit, at first I wasn't sure. But the more we did, the more I liked it, and now I can't imagine being anything but His babygirl. I'm still learning and Daddy is a wonderful teacher.
We got the idea for starting our own blog from reading another babygirl's blog. tutuprincess writes a blog called Daddy's Fairy Princess, and she has some great ideas. One of her ideas I particularly like & really relate to is she says she thinks of her littleness not in terms of being an on/off switch, but more of a volume knob. When she's in a safe environment, with safe people, she's loud. In other places, not so much.
As soon as I read that, I realized that I felt that way too. I just turn it up or down, depending on the situation.

So, that's what being little is like for me. I'd love to hear from some other littles out there. What's it like for you?

Monday, April 22, 2013

Dom of the Household

So in the intro post I referred to myself as the "Dom of the Household". It sounds really important and like I'm into total control of everything in the household. This couldn't be further from the truth in regular situations.

tamile and naivara both bring a great deal to the table when it comes time to make decisions about the running of the household.  I might be tamile's owner and Master but that doesn't change or diminish the life experience she brings to the table in running the household. The same can be said of my little naivara, she might love watching Dumbo but she has a lot of great ideas.

A prime example of this came after we made our first post yesterday.  I thought I'd be all fair and everything and have everyone roll a dice that would determine who would make the first post.   Before the dice had even hit the table it was announced that I would do the first post.  They had decided that as the Dom/Daddy the honour was to be mine.  Oh did I mention we are Canadian so we spell stuff with the letter U a lot.

So just being the Dom of the household doesn't mean I choose to wear the pants all the time.

Sunday, April 21, 2013


So a couple of us have been reading several different blogs lately; some from Doms, some from couples, a few from subs and even a couple age-play ones.  The blogs got us all to talking and we felt that as a group we had enough to say and share that perhaps we should talk a blog of our own.  So the best place to start is with some quick introductions.

I’m Randilin the Dom of the household, the owner and Master of Tamile and the Daddy of naivara.  My interests are diverse and numerous.  I’ve been around the scene for a number of years, but most of that time has been spent on the fringes.  It has only been in the last few months that I’ve started to really explore many of the different aspects of BDSM.  So in a lot of way my journey down that path is only just beginning.

I’m naivara. I’m Randilin’s babygirl. I’ve only really been into the scene fully for a few months or so, so I’m still figuring things out. I’m really enjoying it so far. I’m looking forward to learning new things as time goes on.

Hello all, I’m tamile, Randilin is my Master, my Love and my Husband.  I am not the blog reader of the group but I do get to hear about what they read.  I have been around the scene for a number of years but it is just in the past 6 months that I have been become more active.  I am looking forward to seeing where this goes and getting feedback from our readers hopefully.

So there you have it that’s our trouple.  We have are ups and we have our downs like any other relationship but we work through them.  Now we also get to share our experiences with you.  So be on the lookout for regular updates and be sure to stop by often.  If something we say strikes your interest then take a moment to comment.  

So welcome to our new little corner of the web.